Biggest Lessons Learned

Apr 24

In the past 12 months

Yesterday was my birthday and it got me reflecting back on the past year. It was been a challenging one, yet one filled with important and valuable lessons that I wanted to share with anyone who needs to hear this.

Lesson # 1 what we think might not be true, and the reality is so much better

The entire last year, I was pretty sure, that I was a year older than I actually am. I finally had to ask my mom to confirm my age, and I totally ‘gained a whole year”! I know my guardian angels were at play here. The best birthday present, the gift of time.

I think so many feel like ‘I’m running out of time” . The world has slowed down and we are forced to run in first gear. But remind yourself that some of what you may think or feel might not be accurate and the reality is so much sweeter!

“The beauty of life is, while we cannot undo

what is done, we can see it, understand it, learn from it and change so that every new moment is spent not in regret, guilt, fear or anger but it wisdom, understanding and love" - Jennifer Edwards

THE SOCIAL MEDIA LENSE

Social media is a great way to present a life you want people to see but trust and believe that every single person has their share of challenges and struggles. Not everyone talks about them. Please remember to be mindful of who you follow on social media and what you give your time and attention to. You can very easy go down the rabbit whole of thinking you are ‘less then’ or not ‘quite good enough’ . Follow and engage with people who inspire you to be better than you were yesterday, who inspire you to be the best version of YOU. Not those that ‘inspire’ you to be like them. We are all uniquely created, so BE YOU. Everyone else is taken. Leave you unique foot print.

LAST YEAR FOR ME…

Last year was one of the most challenging ones for me. It was a year filled with valuable lessons and huge transformation in all areas of my life. I was asked to dig deep within my soul to find the courage and strength to face it all. I was asked to walk through fears and knock down my walls. I was asked to give up things I love the most in this world and was forced to sit in my own pain, grief and vulnerability. None of this was easy. It wasn’t meant to be. So I had to learn to be kind, patient, compassionate and loving with myself. To allow myself to journey through it all as best I could and to let go of judgment and guilt (something I still work on).

PART OF MY PURPOSE IS TO SHARE MY EXPERIENCES AND LESSONS LEARNED. AND THIS IS WHAT I LEARNED IN THE PAST YEAR.

Those you love the most will undoubtedly hurt you. Because they're the only ones who can. But before you play the blame game, check in with your expectations. Perhaps you expect of others what you would offer them and you have to remember we are all different. Perhaps, it's time you finally give yourself what you seek from others. And find forgiveness in your heart so that you can sleep better at night.

Surround yourself with people who contribute daily to your success and well-being.

Shut the door on everyone else! Regardless of who they are. If they disturb your peace, they cannot take space in your life. Give yourself that. You deserve that. You are worthy of that. And life is so much sweeter when you're uplifted and supported. Sometimes we need to remove ourselves from certain people because their presence is not making us better. But, trust that if they are truly meant to be in your life, they will be when the time is right.

Asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness.

Create a powerful support system with those you trust. Those you feel comfortable to be vulnerable with and share you deepest, darkest fears . Asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness. So advocate for yourself, just make sure you got the right people supporting you. Those closest to us may not be able to support us in ways we need them to, because they’re too invested in the outcome. Build your support system with practitioners and those outside of your inner circle.

Learn to be fiercely independent. But also learn your limitations. Learn to take care of you. But know what you need help with. Then create space for the right people to enter your life who can support you in the way that you need to be supported. But also people that you WANT in your life, not people you feel you NEED in your life. Freedom is a powerful feeling. Choice is a powerful feeling. Give that to yourself.

images (1).jpg — Take a leap of faith

Don't be afraid to take the road less traveled, regardless of what everyone else is doing. You already know what you'll get on a road everyone else is on, but you just might encounter your greatest treasures when you pave your own path.
Use your fears to fuel you and direct you where you should go. Don't allow them to block you from living your life fully. It will be the most difficult journey and the most rewarding one!

Set firm boundaries!

Not everyone should have access to your energy at all times. In fact, no one should. Treat yourself as a sacred, one of a kind, unique creation. A boundary isn't there to keep others out, it's there to keep you protected.

Don't be afraid to try. Even if it doesn't work out the way you want it to. In life, you'll only regret what you don't do. In the end everything is either a blessing or a lesson.

Live life as an experiment and adventure that it's meant to be.

Love your tribe unconditionally and help everyone you can. But make sure you're not pouring out of an empty cup. Remember that your well-being is important. Let's stop normalizing self sacrifice for sake of others. You do not need to martyr yourself for anyone.
Create a connection with whatever higher power you feel drawn to. Nurture that connection and relationship. It will be the one that gets you through your toughest and best moments. We all need to believe in something greater than ourselves. Some days your faith may be all you have. And it has the ability to pull you out of the darkest corners of your psyche.
Believe that you are Divinely Guided and Protected and have faith that life has a way of working itself out. Trust in that. Trust your gut and intuition. They will lead you to all the right places. The rest allow the Universe to create for you.

Decide to stand out in this world. Be a leader for the light.

Be fiercely loyal to your tribe. Be honest. Be kind. Lead with unconditional love and share your light, but don't take any BS from anyone. Have integrity! Take the higher ground. Lead by example.
If and when you can, uplift those around you. And if you can’t, at least don’t set them back.

REMEMBER, NO ONE IS REALLY OKAY RIGHT NOW.

Try to find a way to connect and understand those around you. Stop judging people who don’t share your views. Agree to disagree. Ask questions to understand. We all have different experiences. We all have different fears. We all think in our own unique ways. Allow people to make the best decisions for themselves, and focus on what you need to do. In a world that’s so divided, be the one thing that unites it.

If you’re feeling overwhelmed, scared, displaced, confused, and need help. Don’t be afraid to ask for it. If you feel like you need to connect with someone outside of your circle, reach out. Book a session. Sign up for the free monthly
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